Love or Career First?

If you could choose between a successful career or a successful relationship, which would you choose?

For many young professionals, this choice is a reality.

While our parent’s generation got married younger, there has definitely been a paradigm shift, as more young pros are taking their 20s and early 30s to focus on their careers and just date, rather than settling down right away.

But even though norms have shifted, many young pros still face the dilemma of having to choose between putting all their attention on pursuing a career or on a serious relationship or marriage. As friends start to get married, it can be easy to get caught up in wedding fever and kids, and put off your career. The same is true when others around you experience career success, making you want to pursue your own career goals first before settling down.

This isn’t an easy choice; while it’s important to pursue a career that makes you feel fulfilled, it’s also important to know when a relationship is worth nurturing. In many cases you can have them both, but in others where you may have to leave a good job for your partner or avoid a serious relationship so you can grow in your career, you may have to make a choice.

If you are faced with this choice, it’s important to be brutally honest with yourself and to carefully evaluate the long-term results to really decipher what choice is right for you. While it’s easier to purposely put more favor toward one choice than another out of fear or connivence, try and take an outsiders perspective on the situation and make a decision based on what’s best for you at this time in your life. Making a decision after going through this kind of analysis will give you more confidence in your choice, with less regret.

Personally, I think career and love can be balanced if both parties are willing to support each other. I think it’s important for people to recognize their partner’s passions and goals and nurture them, instead of making them choose between love and a career.

Whatever is more important; Love or Career first, the choice is yours.

Did You Pick Love or Career First?

2 thoughts to “Love or Career First?”

  1. I believe you can have both as long as it’s not too early in each of your careers. It’s a great idea to first establish your self well in your career before leaving it to start a family even if it ends up putting pressure on the relationship. If a relationship can’t endure this simple test then perhaps it was never met to be. I agree a lot of young people are waiting to get married, after all, if you have successful marriage you will likely end up being married the rest of your life. That can be a very long time. My neighbors have been married 72 years! This is a time for young pros to establish themselves in their careers, have amazing times and adventures without the responsibilities of family. There will still be plenty of time for that.

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